<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Nigel Stagg]]></title><description><![CDATA[Poet, widowed father, and the author of The Not All Pain Screams Trilogy — three collections of poetry about male grief, fatherhood, anxiety, and the ]]></description><link>https://www.nigelstagg.co.uk/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Tue, 02 Jun 2026 20:14:06 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.nigelstagg.co.uk/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[The Small Reminders]]></title><description><![CDATA[In the days after my wife passed, I sat working through paperwork. And it hit me — just how much had been quietly handled behind the scenes. Things I hadn't noticed. Things I'd never needed to think about. Until suddenly, I had to think about all of it. The first time you have to fill in documentation for school. A form that arrives through the door. Anything official. You work your way down the page and reach the section for parents and guardians. You fill in your name. Your details. The...]]></description><link>https://www.nigelstagg.co.uk/post/the-small-reminders</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69d0c3f98b297b54b7364d97</guid><pubDate>Wed, 08 Apr 2026 09:30:15 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nigel Stagg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[White Heat]]></title><description><![CDATA[**The Story Behind White Heat** I nearly didn't write White Heat. It comes from a really personal place — one I wasn't sure I was ready to share. Because at the heart of it is anger. Raw, unfiltered anger that I didn't understand at the time and couldn't explain. My wife had passed away. And in the same breath as the grief came something I wasn't prepared for — shame. Anger. A tangle of emotions I had no name for. She had left me. Not by choice. But she was gone. And I was still here with two...]]></description><link>https://www.nigelstagg.co.uk/post/white-heat</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69d0c1588b297b54b7364c5d</guid><pubDate>Sat, 04 Apr 2026 07:46:39 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nigel Stagg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The silence around male grief]]></title><description><![CDATA[Not All Pain Screams. Short poems. Plain language. Nothing performed. Just the honest account of what it looks like to lose someone, keep going, raise children through it, and — slowly, quietly — start to find your way back to something resembling a life. Something is shifting The conversations I've had since starting to share this work have surprised me. People reaching out — not to say the poetry was beautiful, but to say it was accurate. That's the word that keeps coming up. Accurate. Like...]]></description><link>https://www.nigelstagg.co.uk/post/the-silence-around-male-grief</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69caee4dd1d6d2cc935ba01c</guid><pubDate>Mon, 30 Mar 2026 22:29:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c13fbe_eadfac1b89c540339cc11b37d3a88915~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Nigel Stagg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Men Don't Read Poetry
(And Why That's Starting to Change)]]></title><description><![CDATA[Men don't tend to reach out. We wait. We manage. We tell ourselves we're fine until the word stops meaning anything. Poetry, traditionally, hasn't helped with that. I've written from a place that feels like me. No fluffy coulds, No highly polishrd words. Just what was in my head trying to break free.]]></description><link>https://www.nigelstagg.co.uk/post/why-men-don-t-read-poetry-and-why-that-s-starting-to-change</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69caec31d1d6d2cc935b9e7e</guid><pubDate>Mon, 30 Mar 2026 21:41:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c13fbe_0527370f9c49434e92bcf39bbef4a569~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_860,h_933,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Nigel Stagg</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>